Silent. Listen. What do these two words have in common? It’s pretty obvious to most people that doing the first allows us to do the second. Being silent allows us to listen. Sounds simple enough. But IS it simple? Listening certainly involves being silent, but there are other important aspects…
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ANGRY? ANXIOUS? SCARED? How to Regulate Strong Emotions
It was almost Spring Break before I heard about Matt. Seemingly, he started the year with a measure of success, but according to his teachers, his behavior had gone south quickly after returning from Winter Break. By the time I got involved, Matt had a special seat in the…
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ABILITY-EFFORT-ATTITUDE: How the Growth Mindset Affects Learning
“I don’t know how!” “I can’t!” “I don’t want to!” “I don’t care!” Working in public education for 20+ years has afforded me the opportunity to observe some consistently true dynamics. One such interaction is the interplay between attitude, effort, and ability among students. In recent years there has been…
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THE DIFFERENCE A SPACE CAN MAKE…
Sometimes a little difference is, in reality, a very big 180-degree kind of difference, a night-and-day type of difference. The details matter. Have you ever tried to freeze water at 33 degrees? What about calling someone but being one number off in their phone number, or worse yet, being off…
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HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE: A Great Little Self-Help Book
Two colleagues I consider to be dear friends are retiring at the end of this school year. Typically, retirement of friends causes a little tinge of jealousy to rise up in me. Not so much this time. While I don’t see them often anymore due to a change in my…